Have you ever heard this quote:“One of the hardest decisions you’ll face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder” – Anonymous
Most times, it is difficult to let go of what once used to be wonderful, especially when it comes to relationships. It’s never easy to separate from someone you loved or still love. It’s painful and scary at the same time; however, there will be times when you are better off to let go than to struggle to hold on, and then end up suffer in misery.
When the magic starts to fade, here are six strong reasons to walk away from a weak relationship:
1. It Does Not Feel Right Anymore
How can you tell if the relationship is just not right? When your mind is telling you what you should feel, but your heart is not feeling it.
Have you ever experienced being scared because your feelings aren’t the way they used to be? You are not going through a rough time, yet you can’t get yourself to be affectionate and warm towards your partner. You wonder why and how it happened.
You hate yourself for being indifferent, yet you can’t do anything about it.
If this is how you feel now, there is no use in prolonging your agony. If your heart and your guts are telling you that something is just not right, then listen to them and do something. The more you wait for your feelings to come back, which it’s likely they will not, the more you are being unfair to your partner and more importantly,to yourself.
Let the truth be your guide to more happiness and a better relationship in the future. Yes, it will be difficult to blurt out the words, especially if your partner has not done something terribly wrong, but you have to get it over with in order to move on and be happy again.
2. Your Relationship Is 90 Percent Sadness And 10 Percent Happiness
Everybody dreams of a love story right out of a fairy tale book. Sadly, relationships do not work that way. There will be ups and downs.
There will be bliss, and there will be hard times; however, if you’re fighting, arguing and feeling disappointed, even about the small, petty things most of the time, and if you are constantly annoyed, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
Don’t just shrug this off and hope that eventually things will be better, because they won’t. If you are still feeling miserable despite sorting your issues out, like giving each other time and space, it’s a sign your relationship isn’t going anywhere. A relationship should not feel like a constant struggle. It should be more of joy and happiness.
Don’t just stand there hoping that your partner will find someone new. Do something because you know it’s the right thing to do.
3. You Are Both Looking In Different Directions
Many people in along-term relationship would say it can take forever to know your partner truly, but it won’t take long to know their values and morals.
It’s okay if you and your partner have differences in ideas and beliefs in life. It is part of the excitement in relationships. Then again, if your differences concern big and important issues, which you think will greatly affect your relationship in the future, then take a step back and see the bigger picture.
For example, you and your partner have been together for a couple of years. You think it’s high time to talk about future plans, such as getting married and having kids, but every time you initiate a conversation related to such topics, your partner just slams it down. This should be a red flag for you.
Sort out your differences. If you’re okay with it then by all means go ahead. However, if your differences are too hard to ignore,maybe you aren’t compatible with each other. A relationship is happier and fulfilling if you are on the same page. When you both want the same thing in life and you are headed towards a common goal, life is good.
4. Your Partner Won’t Make An Effort
Broken promises and doing the same upsetting things over and over are signs your partner doesn’t care enough about your feelings.
Everyone makes mistakes, but if a person truly loves you, they will try to avoid hurting you as much as possible.
If your partner keeps on committing the same mistakes over and over again, and expects to be forgiven with a simple sorry, let go.
It’s just sad and painful when you still want to work things out while your partner has become lazy. Do not yield to a one-sided relationship because this will make you vulnerable to abuse. You are hurting no one but yourself. While it hurts to separate from the person you love, it hurts more to be in a relationship with a partner who just doesn’t care.
5. It Takes A Long Time For You To Forgive
If your partner did something terrible, and you cannot find it in your heart to forgive, do not force yourself into forgiving.
Yes, in relationships you must know how to forgive; however, if you can’t find forgiveness in your heart, let time do its thing.Do not blame yourself for being hard, and instead ask yourself why. Sometimes, a person cannot forgive because the person at fault might not be deserving at the time.
Also, forgiveness does not mean being together once again. Sometimes people forgive to free themselves of the burden, so that they can move on with their lives.
Examine yourself and assess if you can still do something to regain it. If you think you can’t have satisfying sex with your partner anymore, don’t pretend it’s okay, and that you can go on with it.
If you are still having thoughts on whether to end the relationship or not, follow these three tips.
It’s easy to get caught up in this busy world and overlook what’s inside. Take the time to look deep inside. Ask yourself if you are truly happy and satisfied with your life.
Does your partner make you feel excited and positive about life? Or have you become moody and sad? Don’t try to over analyze and rationalize things, sort them out as they are.
Though you don’t see it, emotions play a role in your health. Constant unhappiness can cause chronic pain, can make you feel lethargic and weak against common illnesses. Listen to what your body is telling you. If you are unhappy with the way things are going in your relationship, do your body a favor.
Are you happy when you are spending time together? Does he bring out the best in you? Can you be yourself when you are with him? Do you love your partner? Or, are you with him because you are scared of being alone? And, to be fair, ask yourself the same questions while putting yourself in your partner’s shoes.
To let go or try harder? It’s not easy making decisions that involve ending relationships. But, sometimes you just have to do it because it’s the best thing to do.